Interracial dating in the modern era

    I’m an African American female and if you take one look at me, that statement is obvious. What’s not obvious is my attraction to males of the white race. When people ask me who I am currently dating and I show them a picture of the two of us together, I get two different looks: I get the look of pure content when they see how happy I am standing next to him or I get the look of confusion when they see that he is white.

    Interracial dating should not be as big of an issue as it is in this day and age. It is 2018 people. You cannot be so surprised when you see a white male and a black female together or black male and a Mexican female together, or even an Asian male with a black male. It shouldn’t matter what color a person is and what color their significant other is. Unless it brings significant harm to you, which 100% of the time it doesn’t, you shouldn’t have a problem with it. If it doesn’t affect you personally, why do you care?

    If you ask anyone who knows me, they’ll tell you that I love to rant and that I have always been attracted to white men. There is no specific reason why. I have also been attracted to African American men and again, there is no specific reason why. I have never cared about a person’s race or background when I pursued them. It was always a personal connection and the race never occurred to me. When I met my current boyfriend, I didn’t care that he was white. I only cared about the conversation we had and his rugged good looks. That didn’t include his white complexion and I know my dark complexion wasn’t an issue for him. So why are so many people upset about us being in a relationship, especially when we are both incredibly happy?

    I used to blame the interracial haters on the older generation: the ones who grew up in the middle of segregation and still believed that the other races were inferior to theirs but lately, I can’t put the blame solely on them. The hate and sometimes bad looks come from peers my own age, people who grew up in the same time frame I did.         

    You’re frowned upon in this world if you’re black and like anything that connects you to the “colonizers” and it’s especially bad if you choose to date a white man over a black one.

    “Stop tearing our men down to date a Bill or Josh or Dylan.” I’m not tearing anyone down because I chose to give my heart to someone who wasn’t the same color as my skin. Just because I chose to get to know a white man and fell in love with him doesn’t mean I find all other races terrible. I should be able to do what I want without people asking me, “What do you see in that white boy?”

    If you don’t like interracial dating, then don’t do it. It’s just that simple. No one is trying to force you to cooperate or date someone of a different race and you can’t expect those who do to hide their relationship to make you comfortable. You’re not hiding your hatred and judgment to make sure they’re comfortable. Just move on and live your own life.